So many things I don't know how to handle. He will go out of town on Tuesday. He usually calls me every night. Do I answer it? What do I say? Maybe he won't call. I don't know what to do.
Have you read DR?
Yes, I have. I have highlighted it and bent pages. Which may surprise you as I feel I am just stumbling around and spinning. I know she says to act "as if," but in my experience he takes that as confirmation I will be okay without him and I am fine. What am I missing?
I feel so confused.
You aren't missing a thing. That is EXACTLY what you want him to know. You WILL be okay without him, and he needs to learn that. You show him that through actions, not words.
ocean we tell LBSs all the time, DBing is counter-intuitive. What you think can't work.....does. What is thought of naturally as what should work. Doesn't.
That is why I questioned if you read DR. Because if you learned anything from it then you know that the last thing you should do starting Tuesday is sit home and hope he calls!! I have had women in my past that did that. You know what I think of them? I think they are overly needy, way too attached, and way to easy for me to go back to. And that makes them unattractive to me.
Stop doing what doesn't work (what you would think is the traditional way to win someone's affection). Start doing that which does work (that which is intuitive). The first one has <1% of chance of working. The second one is 50/50. There are no guarantees.
Prepare for the worst....hope for the best.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
