Bit of an update. W says she loves me, is attracted to me and wants to be with me but is struggling with emotional attachment/intimacy. I said I thought that would come back in time but she has to comply with my requests before she comes back. (Far better at boundaries thank you). I said I don’t think she has to be totally healed/fixed emotionally but she does need to show total commitment of what she wants long term and that the M will take work but can’t really start until she commits. I think EA is slightly less likely now but still don’t know. W said she’d be devastated without me in her life which makes me think it’ll work out. W said she wants time and will be totally committed if she comes back. Part of me wonders whether she’s running the clock on the EA, although I think some of this was an issue before the A as the M deteriorated from her perspective last year.
More detachment etc. I couldn’t find sandi2’s signs of turn but that would be useful. Will look again.
