I am torn between wanting to kick his sorry butt out, feeling like go get em tiger, and saving my marriage.
He really thinks he is doing the right thing. He says he doesn't feel like he can be close to me or connect with me. He said I have a great body and I am attractive but he doesn't want to be intimate with me. He says he doesn't have anything to talk about with me on dates.
I still think almost 25 years and three kids is worth trying. But he seems to feel he is doing the right thing.
His idea is for us to have our apartment and switch every other week with the kids. It would be easy for him because he works out of the house every other week. Nothing changes for him except that I disappear. For me, I would basically have to go sit by myself for the week. He said I can find a job online and develop interests. I told him I am a stay at home mom, the thought of being away from the kids for half the month makes me sick. I am a mom, that's what I do. He says if I want to keep the house (which he knows I love but he doesn't care about) that's what would have to happen. But if he has to get a place if I won't agree to the every other week thing, then we will have to sell the house. So I have crappy door number one and crappy door number two. Amazing choices.
He says he won't pressure me into figuring it out now, but that means that I have to live with him. He is fine and cheerful around the house. He is good. I am the one who is reeling. And I feel like being fine and acting "as if" makes him feel I am good now and emotionally ready to divorce. The only time he feels bad is when I feel bad. Now I am not saying that like I want to feel bad so he will. I don't care about that. I am just wondering if that is normal? It seems so odd.
the best apology is changed behavior. *************** me: 45 h: 48 m: 23 T: 26 DD1:19 DD2:16 DS:11 BD1: PA for 2 yrs 08/2016 BD2: OW is one of my closest friends 12/2016 BD3: H wants a D 11/2019
