Why are you taking on the burden of him being broken? You do realize that you didn't break him, therefore you can't fix him. You can only fix yourself...so please stop thinking that you broke him.
Long before you met him, he had issues, lots of issues and they weren't resolve when he married you. He brought a lot of baggage into your marriage and there is no way in hades that you can fix that mess. He didn't do the necessary work to heal himself before he involved with you. So, listen...he's got a lot of stuff to work on himself and you need to stop listening to all of his gaslighting. He's blaming you for the situation when, in fact, both of you own up to 50/50 of the marriage.
You can't control what he says, does or thinks, but by granny you can control how you react to his nonsense. If you continue to think the way that you do at this time, you are going to drive yourself nuts.
Go to a mirror and stand in front of it. Say to yourself, I am a good person, I try to do what is right and no one, and I mean no one has the right to tear me down. Say that every time you even think you broke him....you didn't.
Keep the focus on you and what you need to do to heal yourself.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
