That is what is so infuriating, that they think it's no big deal to you that your spouse of xx years is walking away. Mine did that too. He did some very inconsiderate things, such as notifying me by EMAIL! that wanted to file. Mine also had his whole life planned out. It takes them a fair amount of time and they work through all the issues in their mind before they lay the big D on you. You'd laugh if I told you what mine had planned. None of it happened. Yes we were separated before he said he wanted to D. It didn't bother me. I actually was happier with him out of the house if he was going to act like a jack*ss.

I would decline the walk and future talk. Again, I'd tell him that you and he are in different places and you need time alone to decide how you are going to respond to this. Remind him that ;you married him for better or worse, until death do you part and that this is not what you signed up for. If you go down that path (walking and talking) it will end up in a R talk and you really don't want that.

His idea of your fears re divorce have no basis in reality. Neither do his fantasy plans. But he has to live the decision to understand that. That's where delay comes in.

Has he said he wants to move out?

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