Currently we got through our last anniversary (Feb 12). He bought dinner, I gave him a card. It was strange-as I am now agreeing with him that our "old" marriage ended 15 years ago. Never thought I would agree with that! Wasn't even sure how to address anniversary. I am looking forward to a new marriage. I am being very clear that we are not going back to how things were. I think H feels the same way. It is surprising to me how, for a man who resisted counselling for so long, and refused to talk about emotions, he is now learning to do so. I actually feel badly for him that he seems to not even have the language to express how he is feeling, or how to identify it. But we are getting there!
For those interested, we found a terrific male therapist (which I think helps) who practices "Emotionally Focused Therapy" (Dr. Sue Johnson). Very non-accusatory. very non-finger pointing. I would highly recommend this approach. BTW, he is also a fan of MWD.
Last edited by job; 02/17/2002:37 PM. Reason: removed response to merging threads together
Me: 57 H:60 Married: 25 yrs DB #1 June 4/19 "I love you forever" June 14/19 DB#2: June 19/19 ILYBINILWY
