Thanks BenB

[Mumin]

Hi all,

Ouufgh, like many here I am feeling a bit exhausted. Need to vent a bit..
Just handling the kids 24/7 can be tough, work, activities and all this S@@t this on top...

So anyway, came home yesterday (W not home) and spent all day cleaning and catching up some work.
W showed up late tonight (sunday) and she spent most time with kids and me working, until after bedtime.

She noted that I had started listening to Hard Rock.
Told her Wow when she showed her new chest..

Now after bedtime she came up to me when I was working.
Most important extracts of a quite tense "discussion" below.
I guess I made a few mistakes but held a good tempo/cool and stayed firm/strong throughout.

W - Last time you said your going to live in the house.
Me - Yes thats what I have decided is best for me. It is my home. Cant live with brother. It is what I need right now. This is my home.
W - Yes I know it is your home! This changes things so much...
W - It is not common in a separation to live together.
Me - I don't know. There is such a thing as "in house separation"
W- Maybe I will want to get my own place while you live in the house then.

...

Me - You seem to have moved on. You don't always live with your sister. You havn't met me at all in this.
Mentioned she has been emotionally and probably physically unfaithful.

Started talking about future and she said you have to buy my share. I said I dont know if I can afford it. Either I buy your share or we sell and each get a new place.

Me -This is your decision and the way you have acted I can't see how we would share a second apartment and handle this all together. So the way I see it, now you are responsible for yours and I am responsible for mine.
W - Well ok then. (And she walked off with heavy steps)

Right now she is playing loud music by her self, walking around with heavy steps in the house.

Feeling unsure but glad I was firm on my position. Defnitely some "explaining myself" though...