I’m thinking about the last four years and all that I’ve tried to do and nothing has worked. All the counseling I’ve set up. All the changes I’ve tried to make.
Also the trips that i wanted to take her on that she wouldn’t go on or the spoiled trip we took, because the OM was texting her.
Trying all this to win her back is pursuit and pressure. Even if you think you were being subtle. Guaranteed she has seen through all of it.
The only thing you haven't tried is not trying! That the power of DBing. When you GAL (which I think you see failing at miserably), make changes so you can be the best person you can be (and not changing just to manipulate her back), and detach (detachment is not looking over your shoulder to see if she is reacting), then you really start to have a profound effect on your own self! And when you do so this for you, sometimes the WAS will wonder what's different and come sniffing around.
As I told another poster this week. In my sitch when I started DBing well my W got curious about what was different. Curiosity turned into interest. Interest turned into feelings. Feelings turned into desire. Desire turned into attraction. That's what DBing for yourself, moving on with your life for real had the power to do.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
