Yes, I'm aware of the climate and I hope she isn't one of those women who would throw herself down the stairs and say to the officer "look what my husband did to me."
Great info from Jim! He went through a lot of similar stuff with his WAS, plus with his law background he's more informed than most of us on these issues. Regarding the above, hope for the best, prepare for the worst. Talk to a lawyer right away, inform him or her of what's been going on, get legal input. Don't tell your W, let it be a private consult. You're gathering information on how to protect yourself legally. I think this was in another thread, but there was a discussion about recording conversations, in some states I believe it is illegal without the consent of both parties (in other states I think only one party needs to consent, and that can be the person doing the recording), Jim may know more. But it's something to talk to your L about.
I can't stress this enough, no matter how well you think you know your W, "she would never do something like that" NO LONGER APPLIES. You really do not know what she is capable of. Once a spouse goes wayward, they will do things that are completely out of character with who they were before.
Originally Posted by AnotherStander
Originally Posted by Drh2001
Yes, I'm aware of the climate and I hope she isn't one of those women who would throw herself down the stairs and say to the officer "look what my husband did to me."
Great info from Jim! He went through a lot of similar stuff with his WAS, plus with his law background he's more informed than most of us on these issues. Regarding the above, hope for the best, prepare for the worst. Talk to a lawyer right away, inform him or her of what's been going on, get legal input. Don't tell your W, let it be a private consult. You're gathering information on how to protect yourself legally. I think this was in another thread, but there was a discussion about recording conversations, in some states I believe it is illegal without the consent of both parties (in other states I think only one party needs to consent, and that can be the person doing the recording), Jim may know more. But it's something to talk to your L about.
I can't stress this enough, no matter how well you think you know your W, "she would never do something like that" NO LONGER APPLIES. You really do not know what she is capable of. Once a spouse goes wayward, they will do things that are completely out of character with who they were before.
AnotherStander,
Thanks for the advice. I’ve already had a consult.
