Thanks for the update-- I have been thinking about you! It sounds like you're mentally in a good place (isn't detaching the best??) and I'm really glad for you. IIRC it will very much be in your own financial best interest to separate-- I think that is a good move to see the L and protect yourself. It doesn't close any doors to the future, should things change.
Embrace the strong and assertive side of yourself and use those amazing qualities to do what needs to be done. Also, don't forget to keep taking time for yourself-- you need it and deserve it.
Hoping you are going to do something fun with your kids today and start a new V day tradition!!
(((HUGS))) we are here for you, HesAble.
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing
