Happy V Day everyone! So much has been happening but I have made a lot of progress with GALing, 180ing and most of all detaching. H made some disheartening and disappointing statements to me this week that confirmed our marriage is dead and, as far as he is concerned, can never be resuscitated. This was like a second BD because he mentioned D again. Well, I am tired of fighting to show him that the marriage is worth saving (he says he no longer loves me) so I am completely detaching, am not at all interested in marriage counseling anymore (not that he would go), and do not plan to engage in intimate activities with him anymore.
He has pretty much irreparably harmed our relationship unless he makes some drastic changes quickly. He does not deny there is an OW and I have to put up some serious boundaries. At this point, I am not feeling love for him either.
I do not plan to get into another relationship as he has done (he is not denying it), but I am open to talking to and befriending other guys at this point. I enjoy Male company quite frankly but will not engage in adultery for religious reasons.
I told H that we should separate at this point. I still need to see the lawyer to get information about my rights.
Last edited by HesAble; 02/14/2006:44 PM.
H and Me - Both 45; S13 and D9 BD - 11/2019 Married 14 years; Together 20 years
