Midlife wife crisis13

[Wolfman]

Well wolf it very simple but you always have to make things complicated. If your biggest fear is being alone then learn to be alone and ok with it. Then when your in relationship you can be yourself and not becoming needy and insecure and try to placate women because that becomes a complete turn off.

Interesting that your GF went from treating you like a king a month ago to a pain in the butt. I feel like in the last year and a half you haven't learned anything. Time to roll up your sleeves.

It’s funny you say all that. My GF talks about how confident and at times stubborn that I don’t give in to her all the time. I have learned to compromise better than I did before. But don’t give in to her every need. I know acting needy and insecure around women is a complete turn off. I am not like that around my GF, at all. My GF is beautiful and yet she is worried about me leaving her. Or another woman stealing me. LH I have learned a lot. I’m sure it doesn’t seem like it. I have learned about validating feelings. Man has that been a wonderful skill to learn. Granted at times I fall off that wagon but I use it most of the time. I have really learned to look through the eyes of my partner and understand what they are truly feeling. I still have a long way to go but I am so much better. I wish I came to this site before the breakdown of my marriage. But it is what it is.
My GF is a flight attendant and just asked me 2 nights ago if I wanted to go to Brazil with her. I said sure. So we are going to Brazil on Saturday. I am excited and nervous because I hear mixed things about over there.
LH I appreciate you always being here for me and hitting me with your 2x4’s. I know it doesn’t seem like it helps but it does
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^^^^^^^^^ These are the type of post that show me you are growing through this ^^^^^^

Keep focused on your growth and things will keep getting better.

Thank you. I am trying to understand my flaws and improve upon them.