definition of mother is - female who gives birth to offspring. Easy enough if you are blessed to have children. What you were supposed to be was a parent. You lost that quality. Anyone can be a mother. Not everyone can be a parent. A parent puts their kids first.
ouch. truth dart but ouch.
Originally Posted by Irish M
So she is waking up in some sort of way. more communication that ever before. We will see where it goes. The gilrs havent mentioned any emails or text from her to them so i figure xw is still hoping I will make a bridge between them. I am not ready to. I havent seen enpough of real remorse to want to help her.
I also won't reply the same day anymore. I feel my emotional side shines through in my messages to her and I need to be more neutral.
not where I want to be. I am still moving on.
{{{{{{{Irish}}}}}}}
She's trying to co-parent with you. It's really triangulation at this point, but in her MLC mind, it's co-parenting.Yeah, I know. She's still very much in her MLC, but she's waking up, little by slow.
The relationship between the girls and their mother is theirs to figure out. You know this. You are good at being there for the girls and good at stepping back to let them find their own way.
You absolutely need to put some time between responses. I know you don't want to add more hurt to someone who is already in a good deal of pain. You're a kind and compassionate person, Irish. I'm glad you're stepping back before responding. These triggers she's setting off in you are for your healing, my friend. Think about it. xoxoxo
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
