Trials and tribulations of dating 3

[Dawn70]

I am leaning toward the same camp as Don and kml on this one with a caveat. In reality, shouldn’t we all just decide what works for us about when to have sex and pitch this magic number 3 out the window? I think it is different for everyone and the onus is on the 2 parties to decide when they are ready. Maybe date 1, maybe date 3, maybe date 7. If people do it on the first date, fine...that’s on them. For me personally, I have to feel comfortable and know I'm the only sex partner and that takes more than 3 dates (typically 5 or more). If a guy can’t wait that long or thinks I’m not attracted to him, then he can move on. Now, I have had sex on the first date just because I wanted it and the few times I’ve done it, it hasn’t worked out for me. Sparky was date 4 but we’d talked a good bit by phone before our first date so I already felt comfortable when I saw him the first time. I just don’t think there’s a right number, so to be being an adult and handling my sexuality means being honest with a guy about when I’m ready and when I’m not and if he doesn’t respect me enough to understand that, then he’s not the one for me. As a side note, I was attracted to Sparky from date 1, but he didn’t even get a kiss til date 3. EVERYONE is different.