I like what you would say to XW. I’m pretty sure she would not like it one bit. Lol.
I do agree we have sacrificed truth for political correctness, and I figured we would have a further discussion on subjective truth.
What about objective truth. It of course exists, the dispassionate logical reasoned approach clearly devoid of any personal feelings or opinions. The scientific or mathematical proof would be a pretty good example.
But people don’t add up like numbers. They are subjective. Even with objective reality facing them - the flat earth believers come to mind.
All I am illustrating is H has a different view, a different truth, than you. I’m not suggesting you need to believe him; very much not; just accept that he sees it differently. Believes it differently.
Can you hold more than one view point in your mind? Can you see H’s point of view and still believe and have faith?
The interesting thing is that they’re not mutually exclusive. Understanding someone else, an adversary, an enemy, an evil; that understanding allows us to grow in faith and strength. The best way to strip evil of its power and hold, is to understand it.
And as unbelievable as this may sound, once you understand, really understand, you’ll have compassion and empathy, and see it’s not a matter of right or wrong, true or false. You find peace.
All that probably sounds rather far from your reach at the moment. Your H is broken and clearly a lost soul. He has said no for so long now; it hard to figure out what it is he wants. Destroying you does seem to be more important to him than money. I’m trying to think how that could be leverage in this situation. I’ve got some vague ideas, but it’s late, if anything actually coalesces I’ll pass it on.
H is an angry one, keep it business, and at arm’s length.
Here one more hug. (((Gerda)))
It sounds like you could use it.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
