WAW - is it too late?

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Thanks again Sandi. Yes, I did reply to your post from yesterday. And, yes, I recently just finished the No More Mr. Nice Guy Book. I definitely fit that characterization in many areas - especially in the passive-aggressiveness I've displayed over the years.

The one NGS thing I've never done in our marriage really is trying to earn brownie points. The begging/pleading only started when I realized we were in crisis mode and I was almost positive she was cheating. We've had a somewhat detached marriage for many years. I think her resentment towards me just built up for the lack of respect she may have for me with our differing career successes. Plus, I have had a history of just not being a very good listener. It has been really eye-opening to see where I made some really bad mistakes over the years. Validation would have been a really important tool from the start.

Scroll back a page and you'll see my replies. Also, I've read many of your posts on this board. MANY. I've gone through the LBS threads a couple times already. And, read your rules several times. I think I need to start each day reading that one. Incredibly helpful insight you provide here.