Gerda Finally Sees the Broken Fragments

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I couldn't answer this yet, DnJ, partly because I don't have a single minute between working and endless endless court and lawyer battles, but partly because I am just so tired. I agree with most of what you said. And if saw your XW I would say something for sure to her -- not to tell her what to do. I would talk about what a great man you are in every single way and how I couldn't understand anyone leaving a man like that or not wanting him to love and take care of her until the day she dies. I would tell her I am praying that she wakes up before you move on and I would tell her that you are so incredible that I think you would forgive her enough to open your heart to her again. Not because it would do more than maybe plant a tiny seed but because I want to speak truth. I am sure MLC has always existed, but I think our modern culture with all it's respect for subjective truth makes us all respect politeness more than truth, and that the mechanization of divorce allows a completely crazy person to not only leave his/her family but strip them of everything for years and cost them tens of thousands in legal fees just to keep from being entirely destroyed.

Which yes, is about me via your story. But here is a good place to suck eggs if you do anything but give me a hug right now. It has been raining for days and my H becomes more monstrous with every passing one. And lest you think it's something I am doing -- he says no to everything. I am starting to realize he wants to destroy me more than he wants money, something I never imagined.