Wow, what an interesting turn. XW certainly is showing a much longer time and resolve of being out of the tunnel this time. Waking up is a slow and confusing process, just as when they tumbled down after their triggering event. That time is 18-24 months (more or less), I suspect this waking would be a similar timeframe.
I do like the mother/parent statement you made. That will sting her a bit, and she needed to hear it. I also believe she needs some support, and you are a beacon in her awakening mind. Perhaps a little validation of yes we had good times. You were a very good mother. I think you could be again. Nothing leading for you two, just support of her; a hurt person.
Waiting 24 hours before responding is a good strategy. Your messages to her do sound thoughtful and you are remaining neutral, even though I suspect it is rather emotional. Remember just feelings which do flit away. Stay calm and neutral, for you.
Originally Posted by Irish
not where I want to be. I am still moving on.
Irish, do you forgive her?
Forgiveness is absolutely for you.
It’s freeing.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
