Here are my thoughts on the work ranting sitch. If you feel resentful when you make yourself available to listen... then don't do it. So what if he has no-one else to talk to? He made that bed himself. You get to choose how you want to engage with him and if this is something that isn't serving you then maybe don't do it.
First of all, a wrinkled pile!!! Lol!!! Maybe I’m being conflict avoidant here, but if I do a quick cost benefit analysis in my head I think I really don’t mind taking the extra 2 mins folding his stuff.
Work-rant wise- he doesn’t do it that often now. He’s either not around or most of the time he’s saying very little when he’s here. Although I do agree that he’s made his bed himself, I also sincerely worry about his mental health. So if it doesn’t affect me that much, for right now I’m willing to listen.
Originally Posted by may22
You don't have to be a B about it. You could listen and validate amazingly with eye contact and nodding for the beginning of the rant and then beg off... OMG I am so sorry I really want to hear this but I forgot I need to do Y. Can we pick this up later? And then don't. ... whatever is in your mind at the moment-- just say this is hard for me and I really am not up for it right now. Is that ok?
These are great examples may! Thank you, maybe I will try them out some time.
****** Cardinal- you are lucky that you don’t have to deal with all that! Ha! My H is in his own sh*tstorm right now so the only thing he can do for himself is cooking. That’s always been his thing. He’s told me that he’s been cooking a lot and trying different cuisines. Your H may be more self-sufficient, which is a good sign!!
