Irish - thanks for sharing as it’s a fascinating glimpse at touches of waking up.

I have to say I think your responses to her are neutral and quite measured though I am sure you feel very emotional during and after contact with her; and justifiably so. It was hard to read that she remembers there were good times given the way she burned bridges. The parent definition/comment you made was quite a 2x4 for her I think.

As I always said, you are a tank!

Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13
BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself
BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room"
8/15: H back to MBR
10/15: H back in dorm room
1/18: H files, now divorced