Questions from a LBS 5 months in

[DnJ]

Hello Kindly

It is very nice to see you are having more strong days than weak ones. And you are so right, posting here, asking questions, venting, helps so much.

If I look inward I’m also letting fear take its grip as I mentioned above in the sense that I feel like he will start mirroring me by going out at night and not disclosing where he is going. I know we have to live our lives for us as a LBS but can we negatively influence H’s behaviour in this way?

It’s good you see your fear taking its grip. It’s a first and necessary step to get passed your fear.

It is a common occurrence, and an interesting one - we usually see the negative and fearful side first.

You fear negatively influencing H. You could just as well positively influence H. Treating him kindly, like a roommate. Giving him time and space. And so on is not negative.

However, H is going to do whatever H is going to do. I do believe in our influence, it just acts very very slowly. And some MLCers are really stubborn and angry.

So you live, as you said, for yourself. GAL, focus on you, detach, and grow and move forward. Be compassionate. Become the best Kindly you can be. Now, if there is an influence to be had, wouldn’t it be positive?

You are doing very well. You are finding that peace within yourself and becoming centred. Keep at it. And keep accumulating more and more strong days.

DnJ