Divorce because I betrayed her trust - PART 7

[DaB35]

One thing I forgot to mention - when I went to the house on Saturday, the way W had packed was so disorganised. She has literally chucked stuff in boxes, not packed them properly. They are all over the house, in no order. It will be very difficult for me to get larger items out the house for example.

It's just going to make things harder for my family when we go up there this weekend to pack my things away. Not sure if she's done it deliberately (I like to think not) or if she's done it in a rush and not finished it (wonder why as she always hated leaving things unfinished).
I will take as much as I can away this weekend, so hopefully will just need a van for one trip to take the furniture. I've ended up with more furniture than her, though W has the lovely task of dismantling our bed (it took 3 hours to put together so I don't envy her).

I can't take everything non-furniture as W still hasn't responded to my questions about other stuff not on the asset list.

Sorted out my storage facility today. 6 months paid upfront meant I got a discount. Glad that's another thing ticked off the list. Also pre-warned some utility companies about cancellations. Tick.

I get the feeling she is being very cold about this as she just wants it done and 'over with'. Throughout this I'm maintaining a pleasant tone on email/text. I have had fleeting thoughts about being passive-aggressive, e.g. "the house sale is almost done, so then you'll have what you wanted." I know that is absolutely not useful, a regression back to NGS which I'm leaving behind, and doesn't help me or her at all. I have used the mental STOP sign thing from DR to combat those thoughts. Before I think I would have just been passive-aggressive like that and not cared, as if to score points. But I want to be above that. Take the high road.

I have worked really hard at not slipping back into old habits, and although I'm dreading the next few weeks I do have other things to look forward to after it (extra creative work, organising storage properly, continuing with gym, family events etc).