Also, forgot to add this, and it is CRUCIAL, imo-- If she is going to be calling cops on you, etc., install a voice recording app on your phone IMMEDIATELY and have it on your home screen so you can quickly/easily turn it on. You should definitely record any convo you have or are going to have with her that is related to your R or to your Separation/Divorce (if that's what's going to happen) or to this ridiculous contract. You might just want to leave it "on" whenever she is around and a convo is likely... Otherwise it's just her word against yours, and I don't have to tell you what the climate is these days WRT men accused of abusing women.... pretty much guilty until proven innocent. Protect yourself!
Also, know that she is likely to be doing the same to you, and even if she is not you should be extremely careful to remain calm, cool and collected at ALL TIMES. You can and should of course be confident, but you should not raise your voice to her, or move threateningly towards her or gesticulate wildly or anything like that. Stick up for yourself, yes... you have every right to be in that house and in that bedroom... but do your best to keep your cool and do NOT lay a hand on her, even gently, for any reason. I remember in the heat of my W's and my climactic confrontation I went back to the house for some things and she tried to bar my way out the door as I was leaving because she "wanted to talk". I remained completely cool, said "we have nothing to talk about" and instead of removing her hand from the knob and pushing past her as I could have easily done (I am 5'11 and 180, she is about 5'3" and 115) I did an about face and went out the back door.
I repeat-- be careful, be surprised by nothing, protect yourself!
Praying for you, man!
Thanks hoosjim,
I will do this pronto. I really appreciate the advice. Yes, I'm aware of the climate and I hope she isn't one of those women who would throw herself down the stairs and say to the officer "look what my husband did to me."
