Wow that is some great advice their from Doodler. There really is an educated, well reasoned dude beyond all of the crazy stuff that gets posted.
The comments about having to advocate for yourself are spot on. I’ve seen the same with lawyers in all that Doodler said and I’d add covering their own butts to that list. But yep saving face with judges and other lawyers always trump the client. You will be long done and gone but they still have to play in the sandbox with the other players for many more years. They are often their buddies - which sometimes also helps you, but only if it helps them as well.
It’s a broken system but all we’ve got. It’s also why it’s nearly always best for both H and W to do it themselves rather than hire others or involve the court. I guess that’s one thing I have to be thankful for in my ex and I did the D ourselves without ANY attorneys.
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
