22 Years Gone Part 3

[rooskers]

So I just got an email from XW. Remember I have been accused of causing extreme distancing, abuse, controlling behavior, parental alienation, manipulation, etc.

"Does D14 want to spend time with me Friday, or this weekend?"

This is XW's visitation time with D14 so technically D14 should go with her. If I ask D14 what she would like and respond to my XW with her answer, which will likely be no, then I will likely get an email accusing me of not following the parenting plan and preventing her from seeing D14. If I don't respond I usually get an email that says I am not being a good co-parent or communicating with her in regards to D14. If I have D14 take care of it since it is her time with her mom then I usually receive an email saying I put D14 in the middle of a parenting decision. If I tell XW this would be a great question for D14 and you should ask her then I get an email telling me visitation is a legal agreement between the two of us and not D14. D14 therapist has asked XW to leave me out of things like this because it causes an unhealthy communication triangle but I still get these emails that either ask me for permission to see her, ask me what the plans are, or something like it. I can't seem to escape being put in a no win situation.

Any help would be appreciated since I have tried all of the above and am running out of ideas.