Hi, wayfarer. It really sounds like you are doing all you can do to take care of yourself now, and to prepare for one possible future. I hear you on the need for a stiff drink and a nap! I feel like I need several straight days of napping, staring at TV, napping, staring at TV. Just no brain work or life work or interaction with anyone, no expectations at all.
I hope the IC you're seeing today is much more helpful for you than the first one.