Over the last 6 years, business has been the root of most of our clashes.
Why, is it doing poorly? Or just a very stressful business?
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Last few years, things were rocky again, and a few months ago, caught him again possibly cheating. I still wanted to try to save our relationship.
Have you put all your previous efforts back into place?
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At this stage, we're supposedly trying to put the pieces back together.
No, if he's having an affair then you are not piecing.
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However, trying to work on this part has not been easy, and I honestly have lost so much trust in him as well, that I am wondering if I want to still proceed with this.
The trust is very difficult to rebuild after an affair. He should be willing to make his life an open book to you to prove he's no longer cheating, am I right to assume that never happened? He was never held accountable for his actions?
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The books say I should go out, find friends, have fun. My problem is that I'm an introvert and going out clubbing, drinking, or socializing has never appealed to me at all.
Why do so many people think "GAL" means clubbing and drinking? I would argue that those are the LAST things you would want to do! Do productive things that improve your mind, body and soul. Take up yoga, jogging, dancing or lifting weights; build and fly a kite, have a picnic for yourself at a park, go somewhere and read a good book, take a painting or sculpting class, learn a foreign language, volunteer at a homeless shelter, join a group that plays Bridge. Challenge yourself!
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So I have been seriously considering that maybe this is all not worth it. I wonder what my life would be like if I have the courage to walk away. I am wondering if I should starting keeping money for myself, get our business running without me, and take up the courage to walk way.
I would say yes, prepare yourself for that. Then you will have the freedom to choose. You don't want to stay in a dead relationship for the wrong reasons.
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I don't know if this is the right place for this. I know most people here are trying to save their relationships. I am truly sorry I'm here asking about the opposite: the courage to consider walking away. I just do not know where else to turn.
This is a good place for your conversation. We are about saving people above and beyond saving marriages. Often the person must be saved before the M can be.
