I do agree w/oceangirl on Galing. Galing can be many different activities and she's given you quite a few that may be of interest to you. Also, check your area out and see if there are any cooking, art, photography classes available. You might want to try you hand at some of those. Do you enjoy walking? If so, you might want to check out if there is a group that goes walking and/or bird watching. Online classes are great too. Think about what you would like to do and then start searching for those activities. You very well may find them on FB for your area, as well as the local newspaper and also bulletins posted on the boards at grocery stores.
As for money, I would begin to set some aside into a different account just in case things truly go south. Are your credit cards in both names? Time to think about changing that up, i.e., the same w/bank accounts, etc. There is no harm in doing this and if things get better....well, you'll know if you want to have joint accounts again later on.
We all have ups and downs and question whether we are doing the right things, but at the end of the day, you need to do what is right for you. In order to attempt to save your marriage, you have to save yourself first. Any decisions that you make, please make them from a place of calm and not when you are upset or angry. So many times, we see posters say and do things when they are emotional and later on regret what they've done. If you are thinking about doing something and want to bounce it off of someone, come here to do so. We have so many posters who are ready to listen and offer up sage advice/guidance.
If, and when, the time comes, you will know if that is the right time to call it quits.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
