Seems like you are in a stage of really wanting to express your feelings about her and to her. I suggest keeping a journal where you give yourself ten minutes a day to just go hog wild putting down all your feelings -- speaking to her on the page. Never give it to her. And don't let yourself do it all day. Coming here for advice is different, but I mean in the rest of your day. Just let yourself do it there, then close the journal and try to get some discipline about putting those thoughts out of your mind, tell your brain, "You can't think about that now, it's not the time for that right now!" Come up with something you can do whenever you are tempted to think about it -- e.g., help the old lady next door with her lawn, bake cookies for your kids, clean out a closet, read the Bible, call your mom, go for a walk around the block... And if you do see your wife, just have words at the ready so you can stick to basic hellos and any info about kids, maybe a "have fun!" when she is taking them. You don't have to be cold, just independent. Save your warmth and love for your kids. Giving that to your wife right now would be like daily watering a cactus. It will not have the effect you want.
I assure you this is something that you will slowly be able to do. Just keep trying.
Last edited by Gerda; 02/11/2006:37 PM.
I believe I will see the bounty of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord with courage. Be stouthearted, and wait for the Lord.
