Thanks BenB

[hoosjim]

I am probably the most boring SM guy besides Steve85. I post pictures of good looking food (like eggs and bacon) maybe once every few months. I strongly suggest that you don't post anything to SM. If you have something to share with someone, get together in person. Be mysterious.

I am not a big SM guy, either, much preferring personal interactions with folks. That said, I have a slightly different take on it than you in DB terms. I think it can actually be a valuable tool in the "Be mysterious, be fun, be attractive" area. In my own sitch, prior to DB, I had almost no SM presence. i was on FB and Twitter, but barely posted. I was, of course "friends" with my W. Thing is, my W was actually a very heavy SM user (and she still is on some, though we usually do it together), and, in fact, that was one of the chief ways OM (my former friend) targeted her. After DB and after I had passed the initial "gloom and doom and plead and beg" stage, I started to GAL in earnest. Alot of people I know and met had/have SM presences, so I amped mine up a bit. I didn't go crazy with selfies and the like, but when I saw something interesting/intriguing/beautiful (scenery, classic car i happened across, nice sunset, etc) or was having a particularly good outing or day, I would post. But here's the thing-- I didn't do it in a "show all, tell all" kind of way... I'd usually keep my comments cryptic other than to indicate/imply I was feeling great or having a good time, with the occasional funny comment thrown in... and I never directed comments or posts at my W, I'd just put them out there on my thread. Funny thing, W started noticing and "liking/loving/whatever" my posts. Even commenting, some (which i never returned). In my sitch, at least, it was a valuable way for her to see me GAL-ing and 180-ing, and, due to careful posting, being a little mysterious as well: "Wow, that looks amazing... I wonder where he is" or "Who are those people in the background but can't make out... anyone I know?"

So, while i definitely wouldn't say to spend all your time on SM, I equally as definitely wouldn't "strongly suggest you don't post anything". I think it can be and is a valuable way to connect and reconnect with folks as long as you don't overdo it and dont use it so much that she always knows where you are, and, as well, can be a window into your "new life" for your W... a window that you fully control the shutters/blinds on.