Your wife knows how you feel about her and yes, she knows that you want her to come home. Do not say anything to her about this right now. It is and will put undue pressure on her and she does not want to hear it. Continue detaching and taking care of your children.
Set your expectations at zero when it comes to your wife so that you aren't disappointment or get angry when she doesn't do what you "expect" her to do. Dig deeper for patience and keep the focus on YOU and your family.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
