Midlife wife crisis13

[Wolfman]

Teachers salary? Move in together? Met your kids 3 times. Dating what? 6 months? Oh brother!

What is that all suppose to mean? I’m a little confused.

You don’t sound like you are in love with your girlfriend and thinking of a future with her. It sounds as if you are using her to make yourself feel better. Do her a favour and let her go.

I am falling in love with her. I want a future with her. I really do. But she needs some growing up to do. She wants to be number 1 in my life over my kids. This is all new and fresh to my kids. I have to be very careful of their needs. I really want this relationship with her, but when she says things like she is number 1 over my kids, I have a problem with that. Even my IC said she should not move in right now. Too soon for the kids. GF wants to either move in or nothing. I will try a little longer to make it work, but if I am the only one putting in the effort then it will be time for me to back off. At first I would say I was dating her for my own selfish reasons but I do want this with her. If I didn’t have 2 kids I would definitely have her move in. I need to know that this is solid.

Anyway on other news I took my d to Home Depot to pick out colors for her room. She was excited that I was letting her color the room how she wanted. Purple and grey. We picked up samples and put some on the wall yesterday and she was excited. She also asked me if GF was moving in, I told her no. And she was very happy with that too. Divorce is h3ll on the kids. I want to make this as happy as I can for them. I want to create a place that they can call home to and feel comfortable. I am willing to sacrifice my relationship with my GF for my children’s happiness. Because honestly I would have been so happy for my GF to move in. But it’s not about my happiness all the time, sometimes it’s about doing what’s right. I read a quote the other day and it just keeps playing out in my head. The quote I read was, “Don’t do what’s easy, do what’s right.” I wish I would have done that early on in my situation when a lot of you were telling me what I should have done, but I didn’t because my way was the easy way not the right way. Don’t know if anyone agrees with what I am doing or not as far as sacrificing my relationship for my kids but I need to.

Lastly I feel like if my GF truly loved me she would be patient and eventually I would have her move in. She said something to me last night that really bothered me. She said she is now going to focus more on herself than the relationship.