My wife has not been in crisis to long but I have learned a few important things from this board and from dealing with my son's life threatening disease (which he beat). First of all its OK to have a pity party once and a while, especially at the beginning everything that was normal, isn't anymore. Embrace your new normal, for going back to the way things were yesterday can no longer be. Both you and your wife are different people now, you are not the same as you were yesterday. However, that's OK hopefully if you follow the guidance and wisdom found on this board you may be fortunate enough to try your marriage again 2.0 style. If your marriage does not reconcile you get a second chance at being you, 2.0, a new and improved version. As far as being mad at her, don't. Someone told me (on this board I believe) that anger and jealousy are useless emotions, not just in MLC situations but really in all situations. If you think about when has anger or jealousy solved any of you problems in life? Do the homework as suggested, post often, therapy is a great idea and it will get better.
