It would be expected to feel the hurt and despair that you do
How your wife views it, is not your issue
Thing is we have to turn it around We have to love ourself..forgive self,,be there for youself
therapy is a must for most here to grieve and sort through it all
DB talks about act as if especially around the spouse as as if ...your ok pretend like your an academy award actor
the most important thing is we Have to BE gentle on us you have to shift your thoughts around the way you view yourself and your life
and put the pain on the side lines
easy to say how do we do it practice, faith and action one step at a time
I told you most of the tools above I used to get through it and I learned to play guitar, joined a class to learn to play with others in a band I listened a lot to Utube ...any positive speaker out there..I listened over and over when I could I attended classes and workshops I put a lot of energy in my kids I worked on forgiving xh prayed ect
you have to find what works for you but work it is None of it comes without some/lots of effort
become the man you want to be and see what W does then
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
