I hadn't thought of that CW, thanks for pointing that out.

Yes I suppose I could ask "What'll we do about xyz - how about [suggestion]?" and see what she says. It may be that she says "OK, you take this, I'll take that" and we don't have to see each other. It's not essential.

She's like a ghost now.

Me - 36, W - 32
No kids
T - 8 yr, M - 3 yr
Discovery - 14 May 2019
S - 25 May 2019 & D bomb - 29 July 2019
D & House sale final - Feb 2020