I'm a very guarded person because of my past. H knows that. But i'm guarded not shut down. Being strong and being hard are very different things. I'm not saying never cry in front of them. That's my own person bs trying to never let H see me cry. There are a lot of talks on my thread about vulnerability and gauging how much to let WSs in because this is a delicate balance like Pommy said. Might wanna look at what Ready 2 Change posted on there. So being that A type bad B who had mental illness and life kick her to crap on a cracker, I can say this.
Bad B**ch attractive things: -independence -decisiveness -not emotionally volatile but not afraid to say what she thinks -not cruel but says what she thinks -more than capable but will let some one help simply because they offer -knows what they want -knows their worth -won't stay where they aren't wanted
Bad b**ch unattractive things: -controlling -criticism unsolicited albeit constructive or otherwise -being judgey -must be in charge in every situation -cold/angry -closed off
Being strong and assertive as a woman has huge benefits, but it also has major down sides. We tend to overreach. Even emasculate. We also end up spreading ourselves really thin and putting our own well being on the back burner because we truly believe we are the only one who can do things right all the time so we just do it all, get frustrated and then take it out on our Hs because we feel like they aren't helping even though we won't let them. I think the goal here is to 180 the negative aspects of being a strong woman and pump up the positives. I think it's more than just a balance of vulnerability and strength it's a balance of strength and being hardened.
