Midlife wife crisis13

[Wolfman]

W,

I have to be honest with you I have never stumbled onto a girlfriend before.

So things get challenging and you are just going to discard her? Isn’t that what you’ve been crying day after day for over a year that your W did to you?

You have some work to do my friend.

I am not discarding her. She doesn’t want the relationship as much anymore. She wants to move in with me and I said I don’t think that is a good idea. My kids need to get adjusted to this new life. I told her she could be there most of the time. But she can’t stay over when my kids are there and she is having a hard time with that. I told her if things go well over time, then yes, I would have her move in. She needs to take it slow. So it’s not me discarding her it’s her distancing herself. Honestly if these problems are happening now what’s it going to be like down the road. I am trying real hard to understand what she is feeling and where she is coming from. But she needs to understand I have kids and this is new to them and having a “strange” woman live with them would be hard. My kids have met her 3 times.
I understand she wants to be and feel like she is number 1 in my life. Every boyfriend/girlfriend wants to, but it’s not just about her and I. I have kids I need to take care of and protect.