So just to recap things changed quickly. We currently have an in-house separation agreement. When I drafted the agreement it was before I knew anything about DB or found this forum.
I did research on the web and found out that to make a separation like this work it is recommended to have your own private living quarters, buy your own food and do your own laundry etc. I moved out of the MBR because I felt so uncomfortable with someone who said they didn't want to be with me anymore and I moved downstairs.
Had I known about the DB forum I would have done otherwise. As it is, the legal document contains a provision for private living areas. It's not an excuse, it's a fact. Were I to demand access to MBR then all h3ll would break loose but she would have to break the agreement in some way or tell me she wasn't going to honor the terms and conditions which she has been doing. She has been pushing my boundaries telling me she doesn't need a job with a certain salary range and what if she falls in love? I haven't ruled out taking back the MBR at some point but it's in the agreement.
anyway...
WW tells me last week that she is seeing someone and she told my kids. WW has only known this guy for 5 weeks and already thinks he may be the one. He is divorced and same age. WW is even talking about moving out the house and in with him if it gets really serious.
The agreement we have said she would buy me out but there's nothing in there that says she can't leave. There's a provision in the agreement for me to buy her out if that's what she wanted. As long as we both continue to pay the mortgage off until either party can buy each other out.
Suggestions?
Last edited by job; 02/10/2004:45 PM. Reason: edited language
