1st Anniversary of Limbo, Indecisive WAH (part 2)

[Pommy99]

May, how bizarre that your H has suggested the investment property too! My H said the thought of doing something positive WITH me gave him positive thoughts ABOUT me.

I keep telling myself to be the lighthouse, to just stay still and focused and let him find his way back if that’s what he chooses. I am STILL finding the weekly separation hard....after a year, I am still crippled with anxiety while he is away. He did say last week he didn’t go out socialising at all, that he did it for me, to show me he’s trying to do the right thing. I need to detach more, I’m clearly not doing well with this.

Re the holidays, unfortunately any trip would be abroad, so not just a case of booking accommodation, but would need flights as well. I would feel uneasy booking 3 flights and not 4. He has said about 5 times in the last few weeks “I want to go back to XXXX” (island we went to 3 years ago, and he knows it was my favourite holiday ever ). Is that a green light or a hint that he wants to go away? Would he say it if he had no desire to actually go with me? I don’t want to read anything into this but I am intrigued as to why he keeps saying it. He said it again when we were out on Saturday night....then the waiter came over and we never finished the conversation!