Think back to when you first arrived here and then look at where you are today...you are a far wiser man who has provided sage advice to others and yes, you rediscovered the man you were pre-crisis. You may not have saved your marriage and been a success story that way...but you are truly a success story in your own right.
Hey Job, thanks, that's exactly how I'm feeling. I came here scared and desperate, willing to do anything to save my marriage including sacrificing myself. I still don't think that this is the right outcome for D4 but it's far better than the status quo would have been. And who knows what happens next?
Funny side story, the people who bought our old house reached out because I still had mail there. While picking it up I ran into my old neighbors who were simply great people, they and D4 really got along. Anyway, decided to get together with all for dinner. The buyers were just re-married, both previously divorced, and the husband writes books on the impact of divorce on children and how to mitigate it. Got a thumbs up from them regarding my interaction with D4 (she was there) and have new people in my support network.
M(35), W(35), D(4) M-9, T-12 Bomb Drop (D announcement) - May 3, 2019 W moved out Aug 13 House sold Sept 25 Papers signed Nov 15 Divorce finalized Dec 12
