Im not sure if we can really influence their choice..as I look back..I could not change what my H had in mind Only time will tell
You can try different techniques and moniter his reactions We never know what they will really do, but I can tell you as the Crises gets a grip of them they go more into replay..then you will see first hand his craziness
So whether you go out or stay home...Im not sure it will have a huge impact
We DB for us and part of it is GAL , making new plans and activities new friends exercising volunteering gardening church or spiritual l things ect... for us
The only way we really know is with time Some Mlcers seem to come around over time--some never But we have no where to really go except forward facing the crises head on--healing and letting the chips fall where they may
And having no regrets because we did our part
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow