Im not sure if we can really influence their choice..as I look back..I could not change what my H had in mind
Only time will tell

You can try different techniques and moniter his reactions
We never know what they will really do, but I can tell you as the Crises gets a grip of them
they go more into replay..then you will see first hand his craziness

So whether you go out or stay home...Im not sure it will have a huge impact



We DB for us
and part of it is GAL , making new plans and activities
new friends
exercising
volunteering gardening
church or spiritual l things ect... for us

The only way we really know is with time
Some Mlcers seem to come around over time--some never
But we have no where to really go except forward facing the crises head on--healing
and letting the chips fall where they may

And having no regrets because we did our part


married 14 years
H 42
bomb 2/07 IDLYA
D final 3 /09
M ow D ow