Do not ask the question of where he’s going and/or what he’s doing unless you are 100% ready for the truth and/or a huge fight. Because those are the only outcomes of asking. I can tell you with absolute certainty he isn’t doing what he’s doing because he thinks you don’t care about him. He’s doing what he’s doing because he doesn’t care about you right now. The crappy wife stuff, you don’t care about me, you can’t love me right, I don’t make you happy, you don’t make me happy, we can’t ever make each other happy, lots of couples the sex thing comes up, all of that is rationalization and justification for their crappy behavior. Mine in the beginning basically said I was an energy vampire and he couldn’t stand to be around me, no one could. Mind you I’m on several hundred milligrams of antidepressants and was in therapy before this mess. I’m sure I wasn’t exactly the life of the party but I wasn’t the reason our relationship was struggling and it certainly wasn’t why he cheated. He was. And his refusal to address our issues or his. These WSs are feeding their misery with this behavior because it makes them feel “happy” fleetingly again. So they chase and chase that feeling like a junkie. You really have to believe me when I say this isn’t about you.
As far as the him being around for the kids. Seems like he wasn’t there before. Seems like you always have been. That’s the memories they’ll have. Not that dad was absentee but that you were always there and you had fun. Maybe focus on that.
