DB isn't just about saving your marriage, it is actually a way of saving you. We all come here hoping that by some miracle that DB can reveal the magic key to save our relationships/marriages. Unfortunately, that is not always the case, but we, the LBS, come out the other side much stronger, more independent and learn so much along the way about ourselves and yes, we all have had to learn some really hard things such as detachment, patience and take care of that "itch" to fix things for our spouses if we could.
Think back to when you first arrived here and then look at where you are today...you are a far wiser man who has provided sage advice to others and yes, you rediscovered the man you were pre-crisis. You may not have saved your marriage and been a success story that way...but you are truly a success story in your own right.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
