Deja - Thanks for stopping by and the words of encouragement and validation. We came to these boards about the same time. I appreciate your support.
OwnIt - The fact that H has started another month still living with OW weighs heavy on my mind. It shouldn't, but it does. As we all know, actions speak a lot louder than words. Thanks for weighing in.
DnJ - Thanks for the reminder to keep my expectations to zero. Since my last visit with H, its been really tough to do that. I want him to act NOW! I am trying to regroup and get on with life. I'm doing a pretty good job of it. These little bumps in life don't seem like mountains any more.
Gerda - I love your planting and reaping analogy. I truly believe that whatever my harvest is, it's going to be glorious!
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Today H drove 2 hours to spend time with S22. I think that is the first time in the 5 years S22 has been at school that H did that on his own without me telling him it was his turn to make the drive to help the kids with something.
Remember that mutual friend H reached out to several months ago? It's been quite a while since he touched base with her, but he did this week. Said he wanted "somebody" [me, I'm sure] to just "fix things" [like the old me did]. She told him that only he can fix it, and it might take years. He said "I know".
So there is something happening within H I believe. He will need to dig deep for the strength to see it through. Marathon, not a sprint. Right?
Tomorrow I meet with H again. Last week we said we would to discuss whatever legal stuff I think I need. I will talk about the basics of the post-nup. I am just going to let events unfold for the most part, and try very, very hard not to ask what he's doing to "extricate himself" from his current sitch. My perpetual prayer is to listen and speak only as God directs me.
