...On a serious note, get out and about too. Social events, interact with men. I had a big turning point in August of 18. I went out solo to a few bars with the idea of having fun. I met lots of friendly people and talked to 4 women for extended periods of time. I didn't approach either, I usually sit back and enjoy the atmosphere and let things work out but you do it your way. After that night I realized that I would be fine, even though my situation sucked and I didn't want my marriage to go down the drain.
I know you posted about shocking some sense into him, I don't think it will work. The biggest thing that's going to change your H's mind is seeing your pretty butt walking the other direction.
I definitely need to get out more. I had not thought about going to some places solo.
Also I have come to my senses and agree with you that not much is going to shock H at this point. He is in his own bubble. It [censored] and I wish things were different but it is what it is.
I need to stay off social media because I have found myself scrolling through couples' pics thinking "why me?" How did I get stuck with the MLC Monster? Other couples seem to be able to work through their stuff. Then I snap out of it. Having a pity party won't change my miserable situation.
H and Me - Both 45; S13 and D9 BD - 11/2019 Married 14 years; Together 20 years
