There are so many strange, awful, hard parts of this, but one is feeling like the communication you had with your partner is gone, in my case at least, pretty much overnight. That easy, everyday conversation about whatever, and the deep conversations too.Hugs, Kindly.
So true! In such a short period of time I find myself asking “what the heck did we talk about pre- DB”. Convo seems so foreign.
Something I’m struggling with right now is disclosure in conjunction with detachment. For the most part H has been transparent as to where he is/ where he’s going...I believe that he is being truthful but obviously can never be 100% sure. How do I handle myself? H has been FULLY in the cave completely avoiding me...when I am going out and/or not coming home for a night do I disclose my plans and whereabouts to him ....esp if I’m not returning for the night? Or just go on about my business. I think my fear is that he will mirror my behaviour and stop telling me where he is going and I also feel like it’s further shutting down or serious lacking communication right now. BUT at the same time I’m GAL’ing and don’t feel like I want to disclose everything cause isn’t that part of detaching .... any advice?
