Why on earth would you still have a joint account?
Have your own accounts and tell him nothing about your life! If you pay things out of the joint account til D, then just deposit money into it from your account in order to pay bills. You need a very clear paper trail about what is being paid and by whom. If you have ever read my story, you can be assured I am speaking truth. And you will see all the advice here be -- hide your money, take your half, do whatever you can. The MLCer will take everything, and whatever he can't take, he will use against you in court to try to get more than his share or alimony, etc.
This is coming from a woman of faith who started standing in 2014. Finances and faith are two different things. Protect the former, nurture the latter.
Hi Gerda thank you for your reply. The reason we still have a joint account is because all the bills for my home are paid by him as I earn very little and am I entitled to no benefits even without his money . I do however have several accounts of my own and my wages go into one of them. He has zero access to my personal money or indeed the savings that he put into my name. I am very well covered and protected. Our joint account is purely his wages and both of our bills including spending money. The first thing I did after he left was make sure that I’m financially protected as best as possible. I also only tell him what I know will have to come out during the divorce, I tell him absolutely nothing else unless I absolutely need to. I do appreciate your concern and advice though. Thank you
