I feel for you, this is just miserable stuff to go through. It WILL get better, but I know that's not much of a consolation right now.
Regarding the gymnastics costs, can you arrange it to where each of you pay your half directly to the gym? That's what XW and I started doing after S. That way we didn't have to ask each other for money, so there was no resentment over it. You don't want to get in a situation where W has to constantly ask for money and you portion some out and then ignore her like this, because she will get very angry/ resentful over it. I've seen it happen many times!
