Just when you think you have a handle on things they have to go and mess with you.
So I took a job 2 years ago after H left with the intention of finding something better once the D was sorted. Well almost 2 years on and it’s not. The thing is I hate this job and despite trying for over a year to find something else that will work around D and my childcare arrangements nothing has come up. So I have decided to retrain so I can start my own business in something more family friendly. It’s going well but will be a while yet until I’m done. However things at work really aren’t great and as H has done nothing much with the D since September I have decided to hand in my notice at work next week and build up the business base of a little sideline I have. Now after spending some time in IC I have come to realise that H had a habit of derailing my career plans when they didn’t fully work for him. So needless to say I was a little concerned about sharing my new plans with him but as we still share a joint account and have to disclose our income due the D I reluctantly told him I was handing in my notice. He was actually really understanding which I was momentarily pleased about. Then it came. He just happened to ask me if I had heard from my Solicitor. I said no and that I hadn’t heard anything since December. He said he was asking because apparently he’s put forward a counter offer at least 2 weeks ago. I said I would chase this up as it’s very unlike her to be so slow. So I emailed her as I knew if she was away I would get an out of office message but nothing came back. She doesn’t work Fridays so I called the Mediation office to see if H had been in touch after their request 2 weeks ago, no not a word from him. Call me paranoid but this sounds to me like a deliberate attempt by H to stop me from moving forward with my plans.
After lots of discussion with various people I refuse to let H d deter me. My life has been on hold for far to long and I will not stop what I’m doing. I really can’t be sat at the same desk in another 2 years because H still hasn’t moved forward with any kind of solid plan. Really wish this would just come to an end now.
