Thanks BenB

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Actually read most of your thread already since you earlier said our sitch's were similar.
Totally agree.
However (while it may be early in) I see a difference. Your W was asking you all these questions about "at lake?" "who u with?" etc. Mine is dead silent almost all of the time.
I will maintain my current approach for a while but "don't do what doesn't work" will come in to play eventually I guess.

Also, I realized that I have never used the word affair or unfaithful when talking to W. Whats your take on this?

Yea, my W still had interest in my whereabouts. You can generate this interest too. Make it a point to get to the gym 5 days a week, make it a point to dress well, make it a point to get out and be social. Smile and laugh. Look happy, confident, stand tall, shoulders back, look people in the eye, speak clearly, face your fears. Do the things that will capture a woman's attention.One thing that was funny, I downloaded snapchat and she wanted to know why. She thought I might be seeing someone else and mentioned it multiple times. Your W needs to feel the possibility that you are involved with someone else, that you won't pursue a cheater. I wasn't very confident at first, but I did the LRT and faked it at first.

Also, I realized that I have never used the word affair or unfaithful when talking to W. Whats your take on this?

I never said it until May of 18, when I retook the MBR. I just said "You are having an affair, I'm going to sleep in my bed". My W went berserk (Viking term!!!).